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Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationships

August 20, 2017

With all the mixed messages portrayed in movies, television, or other forms of media, learning what a healthy relationship is and how to have one can be difficult. However, there are telltale signs of both healthy and unhealthy relationships.

A Healthy Relationship Looks Like:

An Unhealthy Relationship Looks Like:

Mutual Respect

You and your partner value each other’s opinions and respect boundaries

Disrespect

You or your partner make fun of the other’s opinions or purposefully harm something that belongs to the other

Trust

You and your partner give each other the benefit of the doubt

Dishonesty

You or your partner hide things from the other

Compromise

You and your partner understand that you both have differing views and work to find a solution that is beneficial to both

Control

You or your partner try to control what the other does, says, wears, who they see, etc.

Individuality

You and your partner have your own separate lives and interests apart from one another

Dependence

You or your partner relies on the other for things the other cannot provide. This could manifest in one threatening self-harm if the other wants to leave or spend less time together

Good Communication

You and your partner express what you’re feeling openly and honestly

Intimidation and Coercion

You or your partner guilt, threaten, or otherwise incite fear in the other to achieve a certain outcome

Anger Control

You and your partner find ways to express your feelings without causing harm to the other

Physical and Verbal Violence

You or your partner use force, in the way of words or physical violence, to get their way

Healthy Sexual Relationship

You and your partner discuss what you want your sexual relationship to be and respect the other when they want to stop or not do something

Sexual Violence

You or your partner forces or coerces the other into engaging in sexual activities the other has not agreed to willingly

 

How to Access Help

We’re here for you.  Text or call the Crisis and Support Hotline anytime of the day or night at (216) 619-6192 or (440) 423-2020, or chat online. Make an appointment with a counselor or victim advocate: call (216) 619-6194 ext. 141 or request an appointment online.

Resources

Characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships
Is my relationships healthy? Quiz